Tuesday, December 3, 2013

30 in a 65


Three middle fingers.
Five tail-riders.
Two obnoxious hoooooooonks.
Countless awkward stairs from passer-byers.


That's what you get when you drive 30 mph on a 65 mph road. 
I think we can all admit to being guilty of one of the afore mentioned actions, when we've been stuck behind a slow-moving car or a seemingly careless/wreckless/bad driver. Well folks...today, I was that slow moving car. With my flashers on, I drove slowly and carefully down the road, being very mindful that the speedometer did not read anything over 35 mph. At each stop light or sign,  I stopped about 3 car lengths behind the car in front of me. I even pulled over when I noticed a long chain of cars patiently or not-so-patiently stringing along behind me. At one point, as I pulled over to allow other cars to pass, I counted 11 cars passing by...a tiny bout of remorse set in, as I was well aware that there were probably more impatient drivers than there were patient ones. But an even bigger bout of remorse set in when I realized that more than likely, I would have been one of the impatient ones.
You see, my grandmother (TeTe), loves to drive around town and just look. She likes to look at cars, lawns, people, billboards, houses...she loves it. But, you can't go any faster than 35 mph because it makes her too nervous. For those of you who do not know, my grandmother has dementia. 
"Dementia is a loss of brain function that occurs with certain diseases. It affects memory, thinking, language, judgment, and behavior."
Visiting home has been a lot different over the past few years. My grandmother has changed dynamically in her behavior and appearance. In some ways, she is the woman I always knew growing up. But in many other ways, she is not. Spending time with TeTe seems more valuable and fragile, now more than ever before, because the level of care and attention required has significantly increased. I love my grandmother. And while it is hard to see her in the state that she is in, it also provides a reality check for me to slow down and enjoy life and my loved ones. My grandmother loves to reminisce and talk about the old days and share memories and stories, because that is what is most familiar to her. It's a beautiful thing.

So now, I don't mind driving 30 mph in a 65mph zone with my flashers on. And when I'm driving by myself and I get stuck behind that one slow or seemingly ridiculous car... I take a moment to myself to slow down and practice patience- realizing that the person in front of me is a driver or better yet, a human being,  just like me. And whether there is a method to their madness/slowness or not, I am  reminded of one of my grandmother's favorite sayings: 
"All we have in life is time."



4 comments:

  1. Very good and a great reminder!!

    Thanks for posting this!!

    ReplyDelete
  2. Thanks for sharing and I will pray for your grandma strength in the lords name!

    ReplyDelete
  3. Save your marriage with urgent return love spell to get lost lover back... I'm here today to say thanks to Dr.happy for the happiness he brought to my marriage
    well!! I'm Cassie Tiffany from texas, USA...I just found out about my husband cheating on me with a co-worker! We’ve been married going on two years. 2kids. lots of amazing momments together. i want to leave, but i love him so much. all i can think about is how nothing stopped him. how he has to see her everyday because they work together. we are both still young and very attractive. but i want my husband, my friend, and the father of my beautiful children. how do i get past the thought of another woman having my husband? Not my fiancĂ©, not my boyfriend, but my husband! i still love him even though he thinks i want to leave i really want him to do better and stop me before i walk out! my husband told me that he doesn’t feel loved anymore, just because of this co-worker he has be cheating on with me that he wants a divorce, i was devastated, heart broken i begged him to listen to me that we can work it out like we always do, but he didn’t listen, he told me that he met someone that loves and understands him, i begged him to consider our kids but he’s did listen. he left and i was frustrated, i began searching for help and answers, then i heard about a man that can Cast a spell to remind him of all the things we have been through together, at first I was scared then i decided to give it a try, and like magic my husband came back, apology and begging for forgiveness, thanks to this man, I’m posting this to help people with similar issues. You can contact him for help too. happylovespell2@gmail.com for more details Whatsapp and call...+2348133873774 You can also view on his Blogs site... https://happylovespell2.blogspot.com.ng/

    ReplyDelete